Harmon's Haven

Meet amazing dad Robbie, mother-in-training Jesika, 7 year old best big sister Bree, 5 year old boy in every way Gabe, 3 year old who thinks he's 10 years old who makes us all laugh McKay,
and 9 month old sweetest Quinn Marie...the Harmon Family!

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

To be that kind of mother...

I just sat on the couch, working on a project for one of my dear friend's birthdays, crying at the movie "National Velvet." I saw that movie as a child and we were looking for movies at the library last week for a family movie night and I grabbed this one along with a few others. The kids haven't seen it yet, but since I didn't remember anything about it I thought it would be nice to have something on since I had to sit down to work on my project anyway. (My sweet angels were napping :) I wasn't crying because Velvet wins (she has a horse and the movie is about her racing) or because it was sad or anything, but I got emotional because I want so badly to be like Velvet's mother! I think after a morning like this one it hit me extra hard (a little more crying and fighting over toys than usual...I lost my patience a couple of times :( unfortunately). In the movie Velvet's mother, Mrs. Brown they call her, speaks in calm tones. Velvet has two sisters and a funny little brother and her mother always seems in control and calmly reacts to whatever was going on. Mr. Brown is a funny character who thinks he knows everything and is against the horse racing. But Mrs. Brown in her calm way makes funny comments that make him laugh and see things the way they should be. She sees what is in her childrens' best interest. Her face is always pleasant, kind and loving. And her relationship with Velvet is so strong, and Velvet even wants to win the race for her mother. Mrs. Brown was once famous for swimming the English Channel and as Velvet is getting ready to enter the race her mother says, "Win or lose it's all the same, it's how you take it that counts. And knowing when to let go. Knowing when it's over and time to go on to the next thing. Things come suitable to the time Velvet. Enjoy each thing then forget it and go on the next. There's a time for everything. A time for having a horse in the Grand National, being in love, having children, yes, even for dying. All in the proper order at the proper time." I feel like she got it. Life that is. She understood that her life was about using her gifts and talents for whatever was in front of her. At this point it was about creating a home with peace and laughter. Thank you Mrs. Brown. When the kids wake up I'm starting over. "Mrs. Brown" is my under cover name :)

And really my next post will be about our awesome 4th of July weekend :)

5 comments:

Corey, Alisa, and Elsie said...

If I were only close to anything like that.... :) It makes me want to watch this movie--maybe the library here has it. :)

Arbon Family said...

Yes, she does seem like she has it figured out. "A home with peace and laughter" that is what it is all about. Thank you for this - I will go check my library too! Hope things in AZ are going well, I will call you soon- I would love to catch up! Tell your family hello! Miss you guys.

Ree-ch said...

I am learning to accept that I am not as calm, nor will probably ever be, like her mom, and I am okay with that. Norah still loves me, as your daughter does you, because you give yourself. I have no doubt how great a mom you are.

Ree-ch said...

I am learning to accept that I am not as calm, nor will probably ever be, like her mom, and I am okay with that. Norah still loves me, as your daughter does you, because you give yourself. I have no doubt how great a mom you are.

melissa said...

Hey Mrs. Brown, you're such a sweetheart. I hope I can be the kind of mom that you are.

Nolan and I watched "Gone with the Wind" a few months ago and for weeks, I wanted to be just like Melanie. What an angel.